tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post4453476167041627257..comments2023-08-28T06:22:52.972-05:00Comments on My New Normal: If I told you...Teresahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09028107053575111027noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-72461631234212066682012-05-20T07:42:16.578-05:002012-05-20T07:42:16.578-05:00I'm not sure what to say. Really, it is the m...I'm not sure what to say. Really, it is the most awful thing for both of you. How do we find fulfillment and joy in life when things look so bleak? I understand how tiresome this must be for you and for everyone, and wish things were different. When my father's cancer was progressing, there weren't many happy thoughts to go around. He was normally a vibrant, passionate person who loved debate, playing games like cribbage and scrabble, spending time with his dogs, cooking and gardening. But what can you do when you are so sick that it takes all the effort you have just to be awake? We experienced a long, sad goodbye. But I tend to keep my memories of him when he was active and engaged in his life. I hope that Ron is able to find some joy, someone or something to engage with that brings him an ounce of pleasure and happiness.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16456360103620523621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-82250469583905854482012-05-19T20:16:24.734-05:002012-05-19T20:16:24.734-05:00Praying for you both. *Hugs*Praying for you both. *Hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-41879265468469080872012-05-19T17:09:52.726-05:002012-05-19T17:09:52.726-05:00Exactly what our neighbor is going through! She ha...Exactly what our neighbor is going through! She has had the ambulance at her house for so many non-emergency trips due to her husband falling. <br /><br />But, due to all the ambulance bills, she finally got him into 'stay-care' rehab. <br /><br />She is now going through the paperwork, lawyers and government lists of things to do where division of property is concerned. <br /><br />BUT, she makes him breakfast before she leaves for work, rushes it to the rehab center and feeds him. Goes to work and does the same thing for his supper. <br /><br />The rehab WOULD work, if he'd WORK IT! But he's grown so dependent on having constant assistance that he sees no reason to push himself.<br /><br />In fact, I've written two posts regarding their situation and one is brand new as of today.<br /><br />Golden years, my royal butt.lotta joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12742978845913126675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-7522433008133705882012-05-17T12:47:29.425-05:002012-05-17T12:47:29.425-05:00Deja vu for me when I read this. All you can do i...Deja vu for me when I read this. All you can do is call the doctor and take it one day at a time from there. I know how easy it is for Ron to want to just give up on everything. That's the worst part. I too ran out of patience many a time with Rich and then would apologize to him. He always understood and tried to make smile. Chin up sweetie! Hugs.BBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09432729957196570774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-45719940488286931872012-05-17T11:29:05.021-05:002012-05-17T11:29:05.021-05:00Of course you feel resentment and impatience. Any...Of course you feel resentment and impatience. Anyone who could say they didn't, would be in denial. I so hope that you will be able to find some physical and emotional support [for both of you] so you can move forward with what you yearn to do. Sending you some healing energy, like a prayer, take care.Loishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05355058095178542768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-5613934384451623942012-05-17T09:15:11.082-05:002012-05-17T09:15:11.082-05:00Chronic pain is such a difficult thing to bear--fo...Chronic pain is such a difficult thing to bear--for both of you I'm sure. Keep looking for those niches of support to get you through these times, Teresa.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-36951804968948698212012-05-17T07:34:42.768-05:002012-05-17T07:34:42.768-05:00I am holding you close in my thoughts. This has to...I am holding you close in my thoughts. This has to be so hard for you. I know you want what is best for him, but is has to be hard to worry constantly. Hard for him, too. I wish I has a magic solution......Kathy's Klotheslinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17881966393157941515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-40638528680551918372012-05-17T06:33:05.824-05:002012-05-17T06:33:05.824-05:00I think you give yourself such a hard time when yo...I think you give yourself such a hard time when you are doing the work of many. It is natural to feel resentful and usually it is your nearest and dearest you feel resentful towards.<br /><br />I think you are doing all the right things but Ron has to want to help himself too. It's no wonder he feels low when he is daily losing more and more independence. It's hard to accept for you both.<br /><br />I hope you get the help you need and you can go back to just being his wife again. (((hugs))) XXXLyndylouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18133867788700520182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-82713501865144376502012-05-17T01:22:39.354-05:002012-05-17T01:22:39.354-05:00Dearest Teresa,
I do know or I experienced how muc...Dearest Teresa,<br />I do know or I experienced how much it is difficult for the mental doctor to prescribe the suitable medicine for the patients. I had talked my late bro into been admitted into the hospital in the local big general clinic after we tried some private clinics for his integration disorder syndrome. When he allowed to go home, his manic state got better but it was obvious for me that his depression was really bad. When I told the doctor, he said that he didn't want to use antidepressant. <br />Well, I DO hope that Ron can have a proper diagnosis for his symptom or he can stay in good mental state without medication.<br />I always am thinking for you both and Take Care of Yourself, my friend!!!<br />Love you always from Japan, xoxo Miyako*orchid0324https://www.blogger.com/profile/01230850040531307075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6542261625024857926.post-45153172316566767412012-05-16T22:51:44.399-05:002012-05-16T22:51:44.399-05:00I am praying for you and your family. It is so ha...I am praying for you and your family. It is so hard to keep moving forward when you're drained physically and emotionally. I just read an excerpt from Sarah Young's amazing devotional, "Jesus Calling." It says: "I am the great physician. My loving presence can both heal your wounds and train you to trust me more." He knows your struggles and wants us to lean on Him. This devotional has helped me to do that. Maybe this is something you could read together every day. Praying! LaurieLaurie Chalifouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14922232086688490045noreply@blogger.com