Sunday, April 24, 2011

Nosey-assed family...

I'm in a foul mood tonight. I was already in a bad (sad) mood today. I did the best that I could today but I still struggled with my mood. Ron spent the day watching Hulu on his laptop and I spent the day packing, cleaning, and doing laundry. Not exactly how I expected the day to go but it is what it is.

Found out this evening that one of my brother's inadvertently found out that we're losing our house. It was something I posted but didn't think about until later. Heck, he may even be reading this blog - I don't know and right now I don't even care (Jerry - if you are, enjoy; I'll post something later that is a little more "family friendly" about your favorite sister, you know - the one who hates me because I told Rick that Jake was doing drugs in Mom's basement, the same one who doesn't seem to mind that Rick was the one who kicked Jake out and who wanted us to tell when Jake was not living {for free} like he was supposed to in Mom's basement). I have about had it with the self-righteous, holier-than-thou crap.

Anyway, my oldest brother's wife asked my other sister if we were losing our house. My sister said, "they're moving to a retirement community." My SIL pressed on with, "yeah, but they're letting their house go back, right?" My sister again denied anything and said she didn't know what the deal was, only that we were moving. Do you think these two brothers have nothing better to do than to talk about Ron and I behind our backs? Have they thought to ask us instead? Or, maybe wonder if there are extenuating circumstances in this - like, the mortgage company that refused to work with us, saying our bills (including the medical expenses) were too high and who sent our money back? Or, the fact that the temporary leg was over $7,000 (we owed over $1,000 after insurance) and the permanent leg will be double that (two "stump" sleeves are over $1,000 each). Or, the fact that I've lost thousands and thousands of dollars in wages over the past three years? Or, the fact that we've spent (out of our pockets) about $30,000 since 2008? But, it's just easier to assume that we've been negligent and wasted our money on sh*t we didn't need.

Yeah, we've bought some things and did some things we didn't need to do. Yeah, we've been *gasp* - HUMAN! I've made mistakes. I feel like a F-ing failure. Yeah, I'm just on a freaking roll right now - loving life and just enjoying the hell out of things.

Yeah, right.

I got a lot of packing done today. I think that what's left is just what we need to live with. I've given Ron a task for this week... Clean out his dresser, sort what he needs to wear for 2 weeks (taking into consideration I will do laundry), sort out stuff to sell, trash, or donate, and pack everything that he doesn't need.  That should keep him busy this week and help me out, too.

I'm not looking forward to starting the work week tomorrow. First thing, though, is that Ron has to have blood work at 7:30 AM in the morning.

I better set my alarm.

8 comments:

Bouncin' Barb said...

Teresa, I can certainly relate to family matters like that. I've got brothers and SIL's that just love to talk about and make assumptions about me when they haven't spoken to me in 13 years. I don't even tell my mother my business because she'll gossip it back, so I let her do all the talking. And you are so right. If they just came to you and asked. But, you've got your own life to live, you're a big girl and have a lot on your shoulders. Ask them to help take some weight off now and see how busy they are!! Hugs sweetie. It's going to be over soon and you'll be all moved.

colenic said...

hugs to you...sorry it was such a crappy day....thinking of you and sending some positive vibes your way!!

lyndylou said...

Family can be a right royal pain in the arse! If they took the time to find out what was going on in your life then they would see that you are having a tough time.

I have to watch what I say to my MIL because she twists what I say and tells my ex every little detail of my life.

In the end, it's friends that count and who you can depend on. Thinking of you and hoping that the next two weeks go smoothly.

p.s. everyone is entitled to treats, so don't feel guilty or justify why you have them, just enjoy :)

caterpillar said...

Oh....I feel bad for you and understand what you must be going through...all of us have some relatives whom we could do without...just ignore them, coz they have no right to criticize when they haven't helped you...

Jumble Mash said...

BIG HUGS!!

Family can be a pain in the ass sometimes.

Green Girl in Wisconsin said...

Ugh, that's a horribly thing to experience. It's awful how people assume and judge and think the worst--FAMILY people who should love you best in the world.

Kathy's Klothesline said...

I know how you feel. When we decided to liquidate all of our assets and buy the campground, certain family members were right there with opinions better left unspoken. Chin up, girlie, you do what you need to do and let them think what they may. Remember that understanding comes from experience. I once told a "well-meaning" church member who was "praying for understanding" to be careful what she prayed for.

Jo-Anne Mother and Nanna said...

So you spent some money on things you wanted and didn't need who hasn't, you have a lot going on in you life right at this time and do not need to hear about some family members are gossiping about you.......but then there are people who would feel like they are missing something if they do not gossip about other family members.........

They don't think hey maybe I should go and speak to her directly and maybe see if she needs any help........no that would be the decent thing to do and they don't want to do that........

Life is to short to be miserable so don't stress the little things and do remember to do what makes you happy............