Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Dream On

We had a great time over the weekend. Ron got very emotional when he heard these lyrics from the Oak Ridge Boys:

Dream On (sung by Richard Sterban)

Lay your head down on my shoulder
I won't let the night get colder
I'll protect you, I'll be keepin'
Trouble far from where you're sleepin'.
Until you wake in the mornin'
You've got the world to yourself.

Dream on
Dream about the world we're gonna live in one fine day
Dream on
Spent the night in heaven I'll be here to light your way.
Someday tomorrow we'll smile
But little girl in the meanwhile
Dream on.

You're a princess chains around you
I'm a hero who just found you
'Til a brand new day must wake you
Let imagination take you

Go where the music is playing
I'll be along in awhile.


He said the song reminded him of us but he felt badly since "I" had to be the protector and him the protected. He was in the music business for over 50 years and it's really hard for him to accept the fact that the "music" portion of his life is behind him and he wonders what he has to look forward to.

We also saw Paul Revere and The Raiders and he commented that he used to be every bit as good of a bass player as the one in his band. If he had taken a different path, he could have been just as famous as any one of them - but he would have been in another world, and not mine and that's what is important. At one point in our married life (about 15 years ago), he was encouraged to audition to be the bass player for John Michael Montgomery but he turned it down. I told him that if he had gone ahead and done this, then maybe his life would have turned out differently. He's not sure but says that his health may have still gone "south" on him and then he would have been without the health insurance that has kept us afloat for the past several years.

I don't know for sure, but I do know that he is still my hero, no matter who has to be the protector.


Wallene said...

There is no point in looking back and wondering. And I can only think that his health would've been worse had you not been there when he was on the road.

It all works out the way it is supposed to, right? Sitting around and asking "What if..." is only counter productive to moving forward and living.

I know you wonder too, but just know that you are loved, appreciated and very much admired for all you do.

Love ya sweetie. ~Skippy~

Kathy's Klothesline said...

It is okay to change roles as life happens. It is the ebb and flow of a successful union! Give him a big kiss..... I love a sentimental man!

Teresa - in the Middle Side of Life said...

Thanks! You are so kind to me! I appreciate the positive comments. I agree – I think his health would have suffered without me on the road with him (if he had gotten that far) and if he had taken that route early in his life, our paths probably would never have crossed.

I think he was more sentimental and melancholy because he thinks he’s let me down. I told him absolutely not, this is our life and we love being together. That’s what counts.

It would have been nice to see where a career would have taken him, but there are a lot of people who flashed and then fizzled – so who’s to tell… he could have had a short-lived career. He misses playing in church the most.

No matter how he tosses it, he's sill my knight in shining armor and my total hero.

Kathy said...

Sometimes life takes a turn and gives us an opportunity to reverse what would be seen as normal "roles". At that time, we live and we learn as you are doing.

I agree with Wallene about not living in the past. Things work out just as they are suppose to...always for a reason..but we don't always get to know what that reason is.

I've learned over the past couple of years to live "in the now" and it has made me a much stronger and happier person. I can't change the past and I can't control the future. What I can do is to relish each and every moment I have...just as it is right now.

Hugs to you both!

Pat said...

This was a sad and sweet post. We all have those "What if's?" in our lives. But, there's only today, and looking forward, AND you have each other. 'nuff said!